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The box arrived in the mail and H explained it was a delivery of three books purchased on Amazon. His company is encouraging employees to seek ways to broaden their perspective, allegedly in an effort to expand thinking and inspire new ideas. Desiring to stay in management’s favor and possibly embracing the notion that he may actually benefit from this exercise, he has been reading such books as “Drive,” “Power of Full Engagement,” “Getting Things Done” and “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” essentially self-help books for the business professional. Today was a lazy, rainy Sunday; in other words, the perfect reading day. During a reading break, our conversation went something like this:
H: I read a whole book today, “Who Moved My Cheese?”
Me: Strange title – what’s it about?
H: It’s about how some people adapt to change while others resist it and why people need to be open to change.
Me: Does it advise on how to learn to change?
H: I didn’t get that out of it .
Me: What did you get out of it?
H: Mr. A at my company will not change. No matter what ideas are presented to him, he wants things to remain the same.
Me: But what did you get out of it personally? The whole point of a self-help book is to help yourself, not to evaluate the characteristics of others; hence the term, self-help.
H: Then these books don’t do anything for me.
Me: Do you feel there are areas where you can become more flexible; change with the environment you are in?
H: I’ll make dinner tonight.
Well, I couldn’t argue with that, though it won’t do anything for his boss unless we invite him to join us for chicken scaloppine.
Have you read any self-help books that changed your life? My favorite is the one that drew my attention to feng shui: “Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life.”
Though not really a self-help book, “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain was a game-changer for me. Made me understand so much more about myself. I call it my bible. 😊
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That book is an absolute favorite for me as well. I also follow Susan Cain on LinkedIn. She’s amazing.
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Lol. No, you couldn’t argue with that. I haven’t read too many self help books so I’m looking forward to the list that your readers come up with in comments. I’ve already written down the first one.
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I think self-help books help the person that is willing to change. It is the same with therapy; one can pay hundreds for sessions with a therapist or counselor, but unless they do not believe that they have anything to work on, they are only wasting their time. And i agree with your point that self help material is not meant to evaluate others, but for the individual on that quest for self improvement.
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Hi Nyasha. Thanks for your comment. I also believe willingness to change is key. A good example is someone I know who has been going to therapy for years and never gets any better. She doesn’t want to change but wants everyone else to.
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Yes, I think we all know that one person. Its just hard to look at oneself objectively.
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I have read a number of these over the years and I think I’ve taken snippets from each one.
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Any favorite books/snippets you would like to share, Andrea?
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I know that I enjoyed ‘Finding Your Own North Star’ by Martha Beck.
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Thanks, Andrea. I’m adding it to my reading list.
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Yes, I have actually. I’d say the two self-help books that I did read cover to cover, Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman , How We Learn ( can’t remember the author), really did make a world of a difference to my life 🙂
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Thanks, Wandsandunicorns. I’ll add those to my reading list.
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Simplify Your Life, by Elaine St. James, was a game changer for me:
https://nrhatch.wordpress.com/2010/04/06/simplify-your-life/
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Thank you!
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